Proverbs 31:25-28

"Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and praises her."

No, I'm not engaged, unfortunately. YOU THOUGHT, but ah, yes. Us, women, who say, "I want to be a Proverbs 31 woman and wife." But very much do I observe lack in helping, sharing wisdom, and more who tend to want the last word instead of following their husbands leadership. Our culture this day in age say men and women are equal. And when I say equal, I mean equal in ALL ways. Now tell me, how is that possible when the Lord has made us different from one another? When we are called in different roles, not only in society, but especially in marriage? It doesn't work. Or what I see happen, is the woman becomes dominant and speaks down to her husband so the characters become reversed.

It is true my readers, I am what you would call, "falling for someone." But I know my place when it comes to marriage. We are helpers as a team, but my husband will always have the final say because of the honor and trust I have in him. That doesn't mean women are less, "strong." We have strength in ways men don't. And why is that? Because you go all the way back to the beginning of scripture and see that Adam was no good to be alone, but needed a what? A helper. We are more emotional, complex, and a wide range of characteristics the Lord did not give men because we are the ones who are husbands see to honor those in raising our home. Women who want a career, that's absolutely amazing! Good for you for having a passion there in your life. I'm like, "Please, God, send me someone where I can cook, clean and take care of our children during the day and ask him to help with the children once he's home because I'm going to be like, TAKE THE BATON, after he's had a nice, warm dinner."

The design was never made to be 50/50. How foolish are we to try to bend that? I'm looking at the man I care to marry right now and I'm looking at him to be the provider, love with sacrifice, protector of the home, manage finances, etc. I couldn't tell you one bill from another, I barely have the strength to bring certain Amazon packages inside because my mother likes to buy heavy things and you would not want to see that Ring camera footage, I'll tell you that much. I blame that on epilepsy, but you get the gist of it. Why do we see failing homes? No fathers, no faithful husbands, no provider or vice versa with no mothers to show kindness, no emotional support, no showing submission to husbands. I could go down the rabbit hole of how I see our youth just being doomed, especially those who don't know Christ, because of having no fathers. So, circle back to my main point. Women!! You cannot be equal or try to fill the role of your husband! Women that are engaged, do not believe that you are equal to your future husbands place! You are equal in the sense of the amount of respect, honor, faithfulness, worth, etc. but not in Gods design between man and woman under His covenant.

If you want to be a true, "Proverbs 31 wife/woman," take it literally. And I mean all of Proverbs 31 because I just chose a few verses.